Dating is competitive

Dating, like many other things in your life such as your career, is extremely competitive. Are you putting the best version of yourself out there? Are you focusing on your personal life as much as your professional life? So often people with put their focus on every other area of their life besides the most important one, who you are spending the rest of your life with.

The competition can be fierce. Ladies, there are other women competing for the same guys that you are and vice versa. Some of these people may appear to have more going for them than you do. It can be very frustrating and you may start to think that there is no point in continuing. Even though there are fear and frustrations about ending up alone, you don’t have to be. There are steps that you can take to sway the odds in your favor.

1. Don’t chase after someone out of your league. We all have a certain type that we are attracted to. Perhaps you have even dated or married that particular type when you were younger. Often people come to me and say my ex was this or that. You’re not with your ex anymore and should I be as bold to say, possibly for a good reason. However, you may not be able to attract the same qualities now that you did before. Just because you attracted the guy with a full head of hair and a six-pack in your twenties, you are no longer the same person. Be able to identify who you are before setting your sights too high. This goes for men and women alike. Be realistic, you will often lose out to someone else if you are trying to punch above your weight.
2. Location, Location, Location. If you are having a difficult time dating it could be because you are limiting your chances of success due to having too few options. If you are waiting for him or her to knock on your door or approach you in the grocery store, you will most likely feel the stress of ending up alone. Just like when looking for a home to buy, you go to a realtor where they have a listing of homes in your area, a matchmaker will act in the same way. Work smarter, not harder!
3. Know your assets and use them. For a lot of people, they feel defeated and their confidence has taken a beating while using online dating sites and being either rejected or ignored. While speaking with a dating coach, we can help you identify the qualities needed to attract the opposite sex and even make the needed changes to put you back in the game.

Dating seems to be frustrating for so many people but that’s only because of the inability to change or achieve your desired goal. Instead of doing the same thing over and over again while wishing for a change, take control of your future. Only you hold the key to your success. If you choose to wallow in self-pity and continue to put blame on the theory that there are no good men/women out there, you will likely be in the same situation for many years. Change the playing field and get back into the game!